Affair survival is, to paraphrase Oscar Wilde on “success”, a science. “If you have the ingredients – you get the results.” So, in this article, I will be giving you a list of those ingredients. And the “recipe” you need to apply them.
There are counseling singapore offered for couples before they get married. This helps them to decide if they do want to get married to each other or not. It can be a great way to work through possible problems that could have a serious effect on the quality of that marriage as well. There are services that you go to as a couple only or that you will attend with several other couples at once. There are benefits of each method. couples counselling with just the two of you allows you to really open up and to focus on your needs as a couple. When you have other couples around, you may be less likely to express yourself. However, it can also help to see that you are not the only couple that needs some assistance with your marriage.
Once you have been in a relationship for a while, you will fall into the trap of assuming what hasn’t been said. Ask questions instead. You might have heard what the word ‘assume’ stands for? Just take the first three letters and it is said ‘that’s what you make out of ‘u’ and ‘me’.
When you are single you have to think about yourself and only yourself. This is something that many people carry over into marriage. However, when married you have to think about another person as well. Counselling can help resolve the tension that comes from one person only thinking about themselves. Exercises and activities will be recommended that involve the family as a whole during this counselling.
This one is so simple yet I’m amazed by the amount of people who don’t do it! When you see your partner, smile. Smile like they have just lit up your life. When you smile at someone, it tells them that you love them and seeing them makes you happy. It doesn’t cost anything to do and requires such a little effort for a huge reward.
Remember that we are all constantly changing. Even the most ingrained habits can be overcome. It is not fair to keep bringing up past infidelities in every argument that arises. If you do that, you will certainly drive your partner away.
Figure out a way of life that means you are both getting enough of what you really want and need. There will be compromise, but it should not be a question of one person always giving in to the other. Working together as a true partnership is the secret to healing after infidelity.